'Caring for what others think' - for those extra sensitive types

Everyday when you sit in the class and listen to the lecture and for the most part feel that someone is commenting on you for reasons unknown; how would you feel? 

If you are such a person who is constantly worried at why people talk badly behind you, even though you didn't harm them in any way; then its a sickness to be taken care of. Of course there are some individuals who are hyper sensitive for a bad word of mouth. But such persons cant be blamed off either because it was all because of the upbringing in those formative years. Those who grew up thinking well of themselves, because that is what their parents thought, will become resistant to the bad opinion of others. 

Now there are these individuals who constantly target and criticize you at whatever you do, on a day-to-day basis. : whether you present a ppt, even talk and smile with your friends,as any other normal person .

The reason i figured was that( atleast from experience and seeking a psychologist help) these hyper critical individuals not only judge you (my fellow reader) but everyone, unfavourably. Its a kind of prejudice. In so far knowing that that person over there is inferior by virtue of not going to a better college, has a different opinion/ view, has a better/different accent, these hyper critics take COMFORT knowing that they are above criticism.

They seem to criticize unfairly not so much to make the other person feel bad, but to make themselves feel good.

If you are person advocating perfection but care for these individuals stepping into your space, the easiest way to defend your side would be by trying to become infallible.You can not rise above such criticism by becoming infallible. They would find something to criticize anyway. Besides, no one is infallible. Whatever the stakes are , we will make mistakes anyway. And the best part is we can minimize those accidents. 

There is no way of stopping these critical individuals (who tend to form groups) from criticizing you. How you respond, however, is up to you.

There is no reason for you to measure yourself by whatever standards they use to make you feel  inferior. 

Finally, make peace with your past and caress your overloaded brain and heart

If you try to be a good person, that is worth doing, whether or not someone seems to appreciate you

Peace

This post was written by Abirami Ganesh, II year PGDM.